03-12-2019, 11:09 PM
No where near DM's trials, but I too am back at mom's (my mom's, not his mom's)...
My landlord jacked up my rent 35% in Feb. I knew it was coming. They gave me notice last fall, before the rent control initiative was up for vote on the ballot, but that really pissed me off. I have a litany of complaints, but suffice it to say, the rent was low enough, that as a place to store my stuff during daylight hours while I was at work, and to shelter me a night when I wasn't, it was ok. Now, not so much. My GF bought a place in Marina, next to Ft. Ord, so I've been staying there on the weekends. It just didn't seem worth it.
My mom has a guest room that's always unoccupied, so I asked her about staying and she was happy to have me.
I haven't given notice yet (probably this week), but I've been moving everything out either into this room, or to Marina.
On the plus side, my commute is ~20 min each way. I've missed most of the upside down vehicles on 17 the past few weeks.
My mom is really happy to have me. She rarely stops talking to me about pot holders & trivets, or the dogs, or the lawn, or the bird feeder, or ...
She's also making dinner every night. I really appreciate it, but I guess my tastes have changed since I was a teenager living there before. Tonight, we got to see vegetables!
This room was "the sewing room" when I was a kid. Then it became the guest room, except for the short period after my sister's first divorce when she moved back home. It has a bit of a life-fail connotation which has been poking me in the back of the mind. I'm fighting that feeling knowing that I'm going to save a lot of money on rent and transportation. That she's going to need more help as time goes by (I already had to help her up from a fall once which was a challenge for both of us). And that I'm going to help her purge the house of a lot of my dad's old crap. BTW: My mom only reads mysteries. There is an entire bookshelf of science fiction / fantasy that's up for grabs. I'm going to put the books in a box soon. If any of you are interested, please let me know. Lots of classics. I think there's even a copy of "Bored of the Rings".
Back to the room...it was frilly and full of dog paraphernalia. The bed is an antique twin. After a week of hitting my head and/or feet on the metal bars, I finally told my mom that I needed to get rid of the frame. I spent the rest of the night vacuuming. I wrote some graffiti in the dust on the boxspring with the vacuum. It was pretty bad. I'd already been staying in there for a week. Now that I've vacuumed and put in the HEPA filter, it seems to be somewhat tamed.
It's getting packed to the gills with my junk, but the closet in here is full of my mom's stuff. Hoping I would say no, she asked if she needed to clear out the closet for me. (Note: this is a 4 bedroom house with a large garage and a large den which is used as a warehouse).
I need to start watching "Tidying Up" on Neflix with my mom...(though I think she's already on board with purging)
DM - good luck to you. I work over by Costco in Svale. If you want to get together some evening during the work week and take a breather, let me know.
--tg
PS: Is anyone shopping for a Cal King mattress? We bought a nice one 6 months ago for Marina, but with the studio going away, we're bringing the one from there down and we have a spare now.
My landlord jacked up my rent 35% in Feb. I knew it was coming. They gave me notice last fall, before the rent control initiative was up for vote on the ballot, but that really pissed me off. I have a litany of complaints, but suffice it to say, the rent was low enough, that as a place to store my stuff during daylight hours while I was at work, and to shelter me a night when I wasn't, it was ok. Now, not so much. My GF bought a place in Marina, next to Ft. Ord, so I've been staying there on the weekends. It just didn't seem worth it.
My mom has a guest room that's always unoccupied, so I asked her about staying and she was happy to have me.
I haven't given notice yet (probably this week), but I've been moving everything out either into this room, or to Marina.
On the plus side, my commute is ~20 min each way. I've missed most of the upside down vehicles on 17 the past few weeks.
My mom is really happy to have me. She rarely stops talking to me about pot holders & trivets, or the dogs, or the lawn, or the bird feeder, or ...
She's also making dinner every night. I really appreciate it, but I guess my tastes have changed since I was a teenager living there before. Tonight, we got to see vegetables!
This room was "the sewing room" when I was a kid. Then it became the guest room, except for the short period after my sister's first divorce when she moved back home. It has a bit of a life-fail connotation which has been poking me in the back of the mind. I'm fighting that feeling knowing that I'm going to save a lot of money on rent and transportation. That she's going to need more help as time goes by (I already had to help her up from a fall once which was a challenge for both of us). And that I'm going to help her purge the house of a lot of my dad's old crap. BTW: My mom only reads mysteries. There is an entire bookshelf of science fiction / fantasy that's up for grabs. I'm going to put the books in a box soon. If any of you are interested, please let me know. Lots of classics. I think there's even a copy of "Bored of the Rings".
Back to the room...it was frilly and full of dog paraphernalia. The bed is an antique twin. After a week of hitting my head and/or feet on the metal bars, I finally told my mom that I needed to get rid of the frame. I spent the rest of the night vacuuming. I wrote some graffiti in the dust on the boxspring with the vacuum. It was pretty bad. I'd already been staying in there for a week. Now that I've vacuumed and put in the HEPA filter, it seems to be somewhat tamed.
It's getting packed to the gills with my junk, but the closet in here is full of my mom's stuff. Hoping I would say no, she asked if she needed to clear out the closet for me. (Note: this is a 4 bedroom house with a large garage and a large den which is used as a warehouse).
I need to start watching "Tidying Up" on Neflix with my mom...(though I think she's already on board with purging)
DM - good luck to you. I work over by Costco in Svale. If you want to get together some evening during the work week and take a breather, let me know.
--tg
PS: Is anyone shopping for a Cal King mattress? We bought a nice one 6 months ago for Marina, but with the studio going away, we're bringing the one from there down and we have a spare now.